Good news! Sounds like you are getting close.
You can change the direction of the extruder motor by editing a file in your Marlin firmware project and reprogramming the Arduino. In the Marlin project, edit the Configuration.h file and look for the following line:
#define INVERT_E0_DIR false
…and change it to…
#define INVERT_E0_DIR true
If the line already says “true” then change it to “false”. You can reverse the direction of any of the motors by editing the lines near this one. Save the file, recompile the firmware and load it onto the controller.